I have treated men and women who have had affairs. The reasons for these choices are as varied as people are different. In some cases, I work with the spouse who is offended by their spouse’s affair, and have helped them work through their feelings of betrayal, and in some cases with their spouses.
You direct the course of your therapy with both of us setting a course that achieves your goals. My job as a counselor is not to judge or shame you, but rather to provide understanding for those in pain and provide solutions in the direction you are most comfortable with.